Consider the following: After an hour of standing in line, you and your significant other are crammed into some snobbish restaurant, where you pay exorbitant prices for Cupid-themed “small plates” and are so crowded by others that you can’t hear yourself think. Okay, a gourmet meal on February 14 isn’t the worst idea, and it may be rather pleasant. You and your SO, on the other hand, could be looking for something a little more imaginative, personal, and spicy than pricey dinners. Perhaps you’re reserving *dessert* for after dinner. In any case, these sensual Valentine’s Day ideas are far more entertaining than a single pricey lunch.
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Here are 10 easy, affordable, and totally hot Valentine’s dates.
1. Go On A Sex Toy Shopping Spree
Shopping for new sex toys with your spouse has a really sexy vibe to it, and it’s a terrific way to spice up your sex life if it’s feeling a little “same-old,” says Dr. Martha Lee, D.H.S., relationship counselor, professional sexologist, author, and owner of Eros Coaching. Whether you’re new to vibes or have a toy box full of them, looking at the variety of toys available may provide an inviting place for you and your partner to speak about your wants and desires. Even if you merely window shop, chatting about sex toys will certainly make you both on — but you can also buy one item or two for some especially steamy Valentine’s presents. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
2. Do A Couple’s Massage
Sometimes, the best foreplay isn’t sexual — it’s sensual. “Sex isn’t just sex,” Lee tells Bustle. “A massage can go a long way to turning on our senses, relaxing the body, calming down the nervous system, and preparing us for a meaningful time connecting with each other.” Light some candles, put on some calming music, grab your fave oils and lotions, and give your partner a massage like a pro. Learn about each other’s sweet spots, and build up the sexual tension. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
3. Experiment With Role Play
“Remember playing dress up and doing role play as kids? Bring it into the bedroom,” suggests Lee. Bringing a little creativity and imagination between the sheets is a super sexy way to make your fantasies a reality. “You can choose to do so with or without the dress up — it’s all in the name of fun,” Lee notes. Plan out your roles ahead of time so you can actually put effort into dressing up (if you choose to) and getting into character. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
4. Plan A Sensual Spa Night
Bring the spa to your home. Take a hot shower together, doing some aromatherapy with essential oils. Like the couple’s massage, igniting each other’s senses with some relaxation makes for the perfect foreplay. Light candles around your house to make it a serene and sexy atmosphere. (For one night, hide all the dirty laundry and computer wires.) Recreate a spa experience at home complete with soothing treatments (face masks, body scrubs) to make each other all soft and smooth. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
5. Explore Erotica
Thinking of something sexy to say on the spot can be overwhelming. So, do what all the great artists do and steal from someone else. “Erotic reading and talk can add a new dimension to your couple date,” notes Lee. Find a piece of erotica to share with each other. Whether it’s a poem or a passage from a novel, choose something that excites you. If you’d rather listen to something together, “there are also audio erotica apps you can check out: Aural Honey, Dipsea, Emjoy, Femtasy, Ferly, Literotica, OhChelo, Quinn, and Sofia Sins,” suggest Lee. These apps have sexy audio stories to match your mood or favorite fantasy. Sharing sexy stories that get you going is a great way to learn about each other’s desires. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
6. Play A Sexy Game
Grab a bottle of red and get comfy in the living room for a sexy game night. Lee suggests trying sex games, erotic dice, strip poker, or truth or dare challenges to spice things up. Perhaps you take turns doing some consensual power-play or blindfold and teasing each other. “This help get the creative juices going and support both of you in becoming more adaptable lovers,” Lee says. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
7. Try A Blindfolded Taste Test
To feed your literal and sexual appetite, grab a blindfold and take turns feeding each other some delicious treats. “When blindfolded, your other senses heighten,” explains Lee. “Food tastes different when we can’t see what we’re eating — have fun exploring your senses.” Try erotic foods and aphrodisiac desserts like chocolates, berries, or candy — the options are endless. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)
9. Do A (Naked) Fashion Show
Perhaps the best part of getting all dressed up is getting dressed back down. “Being unclothed can make us feel vulnerable and naked, emotionally too,” Lee tells Bustle. Pick out nice outfits for each other (including hot undies or lingerie pieces) and give each other an at-home fashion show. Strip down together and continue on for some naked time. Bonus points if you make it a photo shoot. (Sexy Valentine’s Day)