Almost everyone is the ex of someone else. This means that there’s a good chance you’re dating someone who previously had a failed romantic and sexual relationship with someone else.
Of course, having an ex is not a bad thing. Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be, and it’s okay to move on to better, happier circumstances.
However, one of the difficulties in transitioning from one relationship to the next is the [almost unavoidable] issue of comparisons. It is frequently difficult for people not to compare their ex to their next. It is not always the case. However, it almost always occurs.
As a result, one partner is always left wanting. It could be in one or more areas, such as finances, care, compatibility, communication, or sexuality.
It’s not uncommon for people to move on from an ex to a new partner only to discover that no matter how good the new partner is, they can’t match the ex’s sexual mastery. Here are some suggestions for what to do if you ever find yourself in this situation:
If you have a strong sexual appetite that your new partner can’t seem to match, the first thing you should do is talk about it.
It is preferable and even advisable to have these conversations before beginning the relationship, but if you have already started the relationship and their performance is not matching up to their performance, you must speak up.
You must communicate what you like and how you like it to him or her while also listening to what they want and how they want it.
Needs, their regularity, and the intensity with which they are met… Find a way to inform them of the expectations.
Make an effort to do so
Don’t just talk the talk. Walk the walk. Then walk the walk. Show them how to make your wishes come true.
Give it some time
Obviously, if your partner isn’t meeting your sexual expectations, it’s because they don’t know-how.
It may take some time for them to reach the level of sexual performance you want them to play from, and you must be willing to give it to them.
Keep your distance from that ex
It will not be easy, but it is necessary. Returning to that ex is not only disrespectful to your partner, but it also reduces the amount of effort you’d like to put into making sex with your partner enjoyable.
If you’re getting it from another source, you won’t be concerned about fixing the faulty system you have with your boo.
If it’s not working, leave
Sex is an essential component of all relationships and marriages. Infidelity is frequently caused by a lack of it. So, if your partner has never been able to match you despite several attempts and it is important to you to always have great sex, you should consider leaving that relationship.
That’s preferable to being unfaithful.