The truth behind Getting ignored after Sex, Why did it happen?

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You had an affair with someone. They are now ghosting you. Ouch. Rather of wallowing in self-pity, it’s time to examine why you’re neglected after sex.

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I understand what it’s like to be neglected after sex. Not only is your ego shattered, but you also don’t comprehend why anybody would do such a thing to you. They didn’t have to propose marriage, but the very least they could have done was let you know they’re no longer interested. It still hurts, but at least you have some closure. But, sadly, they don’t even try. So, why is it that you were ignored after sex? Okay, I don’t know them personally, so their reason may be completely different, but usually, you’re ignored after sex for a few main reasons.

#1 They only wanted sex.

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Now, this is completely cool if you talked about this prior to sex. That way, you know that sex was only what they wanted. While ignoring isn’t nice, you have it figured out. If you didn’t ask what they were looking for prior to having sex, well, then you allowed yourself to be vulnerable to this type of behavior. What are they looking for? Casual sex? Getting to know you? A relationship? What?!

#2 You don’t know what you want

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At the end of the day, people can tell when someone doesn’t know what they want. They may have slept with you and then realized that you’re looking for something more serious or more casual that doesn’t fall in their needs. Because you didn’t state your needs, they may have assumed that you aren’t on the same page. So, instead of talking to you, they ignored you.

#3 They didn’t want anything serious.

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Now, I don’t want to assume, but I have a feeling that you slept with this person before making a commitment to each other. I’m not judging, we’ve all slept with people before even talking about what we want in relationships.They didn’t want anything serious which is why they ignored you after sex. Depending on gender, men are able to have sex without feeling emotional, while women biologically have an emotional experience when having sex.

#4 It wasn’t “it.” 

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Though everyone has sex, sexual experiences differ from person to person. For example, you may have amazing sex with one person while the next person you sleep with, the sex will be completely different. We’re not designed to have amazing sex with everyone we encounter. We all have different bodies. Each vagina and penis is different and not all of them will fit together.

#5 They freaked out.

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Listen, the sex was amazing, for you and your partner. It blew each other’s mind. But sex can be funny. You both had an amazing experience, but your partner is freaking out. They think about the future and what they should do which results in them freaking out and ignoring you.In other words, they’re scared of commitment. Now, did they have to ignore you? No, but that just shows they’re immature.

#6 You’re getting attached.

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Yeah, I know it sounds stupid. How can people not be emotionally attached after a great sexual experience? And for them, they simply wanted sex which is great but that’s not how sex works. After sex, you texted them more or asked to hang out. They took this as a warning sign of you being attached. So, they ran instead.

 

#7 They have a boyfriend/girlfriend.

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Ah yes. Sorry, but they’re already taken. Yeah, I know, they’re dicks, but for them, you were just someone to have a good time with. Then they go back to their normal life. They had no intention of continuing the relationship. They got what they wanted, and now they don’t need you.

#8 They’re waiting for you to play their game.

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Maybe after sex, you texted them once, but then you saw that they weren’t really replying or only replying when they wanted. In other words, they wrapped you around their finger and used you for sex whenever they wanted.

But, you didn’t quite fall into that trap and now you don’t contact their period. But you’re not really being ignored, rather, they’re waiting for you to come running to them.

#9 They don’t actually like you.

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I know this sounds horrible. At the moment, they just wanted to stick it in. They didn’t really care who you are or your interest, they simply had one thing on their mind and that was to get laid. Now, you may have taken this a little more seriously, but they’re not even ignoring you. They simply don’t care. (READ : HOW TO KNOW A MAN)

Now that you know what the real reasons you’re ignored after sex, there’s no point in developing all these theories in your head and freaking out.