Why Dating As A Millennial is So Grueling?

By-Monalisa Gogoi

When we were younger, romantic relationships seemed so much simpler. If we liked someone, we told them — and if they felt the same, we got together. These days, things are endlessly more complicated and frustrating, and dating as a millennial is seriously screwed up.

We expect a perfectionist that doesn’t exist

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Social media has to lead us t believe we’ve entitled a fairy tale life that doesn’t truly exist. we write people off for a minor detail and quickly look for the next best thing that we’ll somehow also find flaws in. we fail to realize that relationships are the balanced bond that with the amazing things come imperfections as well.

We’re hyper-focused on sex

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Sex is scarily available — we can have it simply with the swipe of a finger. There’s zero effort made into getting to know someone for who they truly are unless we’re willing to undress and show the most sacred parts of ourselves first. And most of the time, sex doesn’t lead to a relationship — it leads to heartache, confusion, and another one-night stand with the next person.

We’re too strategic about our responses

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Responding right away comes across AS desperate and too available. This also gives us more time to change our behavior to suit theirs when communicating. and once we meet them in real life we struggle to match who we are in the text. which results in getting severely anxious once meeting them.

We’re in a competition of who can care the least

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Showing actual emotions is heavily frowned upon. If we show our cards and act like we’re interested, it leaves the person we’re affectionate about turned off and running in the opposite direction instead of being flattered that we actually give a crap about them. There’s little gratitude for honest and happy emotions.

We Don’t Want To Be Responsible

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If we hurt someone’s feelings, it is not our problem but theirs. That’s the millennials’ present-day mantra. We don’t feel the tiniest bit of remorse or the need to apologize for hurting someone or making someone feel bad (not true for everyone, I agree. Many millennials still care and love). For us, it is not our problem to resolve someone’s emotions even if we were the cause behind it. We feel entitled to act that way because we do not want to take responsibility.

Contentment with being alone

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Self-love is big with millennials. They are used to doing it all by themselves and it reaches a point where they do not feel the need to be in a relationship. They get in these comfort zones and dread inviting someone else will come and disrupt their peace and happiness. They are content with how things are and this makes it that much harder to date a millennial.

These are just some of the reasons why dating a millennial is so messed up. Others include always being stuck in the grey area because no one wants to define anything. They say that to define is to limit. Another reason that dating a millennial is so messed up is that they do not feel accountable for the pain they inflict on others. It is your problem, deal with it. Lastly, social media has presented a form of perfection that does not exist and millennials are here trying to chase this perfection. Just hard to date them.